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shame

When it was brought to my attention that I had messed up, I instantly felt horrible. I was sitting in feelings of shame, guilt and embarrassment. My brain instantly wanted me to believe that because I did something wrong, it meant there was something wrong with me. 

shame

When it was brought to my attention that I had messed up…I instantly felt horrible. I was full of shame for doing “it” wrong.

I noticed how I quickly became defensive and wanted to explain why I did what I did.

The woman on the other end of the email thread was patient with me. She simply reminded me that it didn’t matter my intent, the fact was, what I did was incorrect.

AND SHE WAS RIGHT!

I have been sitting in feelings of shame, guilt and embarrassment.

But what I noticed through my self-coaching, is that my brain instantly wanted me to believe that because I did something wrong…it meant there was something wrong with me. 

I believed it meant I was bad and unworthy as a person.

And normally I would have believed this and fallen into a deep rabbit hole of negative self-talk and self sabotage.

But this time it was different.

This time I no longer believed this to be true. The work I have done this past year on my self concept and identity helped me avoid the dark pit of shame.

I have come to believe I am good, worthy and whole…even when I make mistakes.

What does this have to do with weight loss you ask?

  • Many of my clients have told me how they “messed up”.
  • How they feel they “failed” because they ate more than they planned.
  • One client was beating herself up for “already missing a day of her 30 day challenge” and was feeling horrible about herself.

I want you to hear me when I say…as humans, we are going to mess up, fail and miss the mark on things. That is what humans do.

No one on earth is perfect. No one.

But what we believe about ourselves when things don’t go according to plan is our choice.

It never used to come naturally to me to be my own cheerleader. It has taken work and daily practise.

But I know when I believe I am 100% worthy and whole, I feel a lot better about myself and show up as a better version of myself!

I encourage you to work on accepting yourself as a human who is not 100% perfect, but is definitely 100% worthy and whole.

In love and light,

Laurie

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